“Marriage, a market which has nothing free but the entrance.”
-Michel de Montaigne
Something else I’ve discovered: I’m pretty good at being a pre-wife. Flat found, furniture bought, basic appliances purchased (which I haven’t ruined, exploded, or dropped yet!), and organization of said flat taken care of. Utilities set up, bills paid on time, and I even got into the spirit of registering, even though the guiltis still painfully acute. And J. is an excellent pre-husband! He put our dresser and bookcase from IKEA together, reminds me of wedding stuff we still have to do (i.e. registering…could I blame the guilt on him?), bemusedly tolerates me running around like a headless chicken when I think something has to be done immediately, and does the heavy lifting. And he’s very fun to look at! Mostly planning the wedding has been an unenjoyably chore, even though I think it’s going to turn out beautifully, but planning the marriage itself has been rather fun.
Besides finishing trawling Bed Bath and Beyond with a registry scanner yesterday (Target’s our next victim), and deciding to buy a comforter set because it’s half off and on clearance, we also decided to buy a computer (finally, since I’ve been without for months now and J.’s laptop seems to have decided to tank on us). So while it seems an expensive week, with tax refund money and a returned security deposit from my old condo, it actually won’t be too bad!
It’s surreal sometimes to no longer be a starving university student and having a legitimate income to spend however I find best (…or if I really, really need that pair of shoes…). It seems the more money you have, the more places it has to go. Where the topic of hot internal debate used to be, “Can I afford that or should I continue to just use my boot as a hammer?” it’s now become, “I know I can buy that but should I get it now, put it on a credit card, wait until payday, or spend the money on something else?” Often it’s not a choice between can or can’t, it’s a choice of when.
On a completely different topic, Marie has asked me to come talk to a group of nursing students who are going on study abroad to the UK about living in Britain, culture shock, and cultural perceptions on both sides. I’m particularly looking forward to lecturing these girls (none of whom besides Marie have been out of the country in their lives) regarding American tourist behavior abroad, a subject of which I have many vicious opinions!